The Struggle is Real: How to wake all the family to pray Fajr
As we all know, praying the 5 daily compulsory prayers is one of the pillars of Islām and a testament to our faith and connection with Allāh. Out of the 5 prayers, Fajr is perhaps the one that many people, adults and young people, find the hardest to consistently adhere to.
Waking up in the early hours of the morning, sometimes as early as 2.30 or 3.00 am, can be very difficult. If your working or day-to-day life is physically taxing or involves late hours, sleep can be very, very precious. Sometimes, no matter how good our intentions, we simple sleep through and instead of waking to pray and feeling contentment, we wake hours later feeling frustrated and uneasy.
Early risers are trained early for success.
How we tackle the struggle of waking for Fajr as adults can often be down to how we were prepared and trained to manage this when we were younger. For each adult who repeatedly misses and sleeps through Fajr, there is another adult who wakes on time, rises from their bed, washes and prays to their Lord in the early hours of the morning.
What is the difference between these two people? Sometimes it can be down to differences in working and family life – however overall, in the Western world, most of us work similar patterns and our lives follow similar routines.
More often than not it is the habits instilled at a young age and the motivation and understanding about the importance of Fajr prayer, that compels the successful one to wake and rise with ease.
Understanding the context of Fajr prayer in the life of the believer, the benefits that it brings and being set the correct example at a young age, are solid foundations to build upon later in life. Adults who experienced this in their upbringing are more likely to hold on to these habits and cope better with them.
‘Establish prayer at the decline of the sun until the darkness of the night and recite the Qurān at Fajr. Indeed, the recitation of Fajr is ever witnessed.’ – (Qurān,17:78)
Ramadhān: double the reason to rise!
Every time Ramadhan is with us, we up our acts of worship and strive for extra reward. Waking up just before Fajr prayer has a double reward during this blessed time : Suhoor! Struggling to get out of bed may just be that little bit easier during the blessed month as more of us fall in to better routines of worship and unity in practice. Of course, the prospect of warm food and water ahead of a long fast can be extra motivation for pushing back the covers and getting up. The benefits and reward for eating Suhoor and praying Fajr are huge and without a doubt will improve the experience of fasting and worship during Ramadhān.
The struggle is real: prepare your family with a habit for a lifetime.
Of course, we know all too well that those who struggle to wake for Fajr, will experience other difficulties in their daily life and daily worship. Waking up for Fajr means that you start the day on the right note: remembering your Lord in the quiet of the night. This contributes to a healthy and peaceful mindset where the other remaining prayers and acts of worship come with ease and happiness.
For those who don’t manage to wake for Fajr, it can be difficult to adhere strictly to other prayer times. Missing 1 of the 5 prayers allows Shaytān in and sooner or later, there is the danger of falling complacent in our remaining worship. From there on in, the struggle to retrain the mind, heart and body to wake for Fajr prayer becomes increasingly difficult. Once the habit is broken – or never properly formed – the battle never really ends, and success remains elusive.
Teaching your family to wake in time for Fajr prayer instils within them a habit of a lifetime for which you and they will receive endless reward, in shā Allāh.
Would you like to learn more about how you can equip your family with the skills and understanding to achieve Fajr together? Our 3-part training programme ‘Waking Up for Fajr’ will guide you in easy steps, how you can build your whole family’s iman to really reap the rewards of prayer and worship in the early hours. Whatever stage you are at, whether praying Fajr delayed, missing the odd prayer, rising only during Ramadan or struggling to stay awake in salah, this programme will give you the strength to take your Fajr prayers to the next level.